Men's Mental Health
This Is A Topic That Definitely Doesn't Get Enough Attention.
The Reasons That We Don't Talk Feelings.
Ask any man how he is doing, and 99% of the time you will get “great” or “I'm good.” This is just a fact of life, we really don't like to talk about our feelings. This might happen because we simply can't explain these feelings. Especially when they are stemming from existential or identity based stresses. These could originate from multiple different things. Like a man not liking something about his physical appearance. This could mean that he feels too short, too tall, or not muscular enough. Even his clothing, and financial status can contribute.
There are other causes though, and these are deeper, and much harder to explain. Sometimes they can be totally impossible to quantify. Maybe this is because he can't even understand them himself. The reasons listed above are the easy ones to understand, but are far from easy to cope with, money, appearance, loss of a loved one etc. they can all be devastating. However horrible these issues are, at least we understand “why” these happen. There are other causes that are nearly impossible to pinpoint.
The Unknown Issues.
There are some causes that we just can’t tell where they came from, and can't figure out how to fix them. These can cause a man to repeatedly keep losing jobs, disconnect from friends and family, and become easily aggravated. As a man, it's a huge scar on our ego to feel like we aren't good enough to hold on to something so simple as a job. It can actually hurt watching all of these other people in society doing just fine, walking around smiling and laughing. Living “normal” lives, while going to work every day at the same job that they have had for 10 years.
I know this one all to well myself, before I was 30 years old I had almost never worked at the same place for more than a year. For one reason or another, I either left or got fired. Sometimes because I lost interest in working there, or morally didn't like some choice they made, and then ordered me to go do. I jumped from job to job, and sometimes because of the new companies location, would also wind up jumping from house to house. Every time I did, I dreaded having to get to know a whole set of new employees, and with relocating so often meeting new neighbors. The only way that I have found around that issue for me personally, is self employment.
In the age we live in now, it's actually fells like it's easier to start a business, or move out of the populated area and just begin homesteading, than it is to simply find a new job. Especially in the case that you no longer like the field you were working in, and are wanting to find a whole new trade. Hell half of the time I was unsure of what I wanted to do for work, like picking the perfect job would make it all stop. This may have been because I thought if I just found just the right Job that it would make me happy again. That never turned out to be the case. At least it wasn't until I was about 35, and I began working for a small Diesel Mechanics shop. I truly liked that one, both the work, and coworkers. There were only 5 other employees in total, and most of the day I was working alone. It was the one job I truly loved, and may still be working there, but the boss flipped out on New Year's Eve and had a standoff with police, and consequentially lost his business a few months later. Moral of that story working for other people can also suck, even if it's a small business. After so many times it becomes maddening.
The Frightening Feeling.
It's scary as hell to constantly feel like there is something seriously wrong, but you can't tell what it is. Especially when that feeling lasts for weeks or months. It's hard to explain this one, but I will try. This one has been happening to me for all of my adult life. There will be a feeling that I have forgotten something vitally important, similar to leaving the stove, or the coffee maker on, but there is no actual cause. There are no missed appointments, and no dangerous appliances left running, just the feeling that something was missed or forgotten. Now turn it up to eleven, and sprinkle it in every aspect of your life.
Whenever I had this feeling in the past, I would just head out into the woods for a few days. Usually after enough time being alone in nature, it would clear that feeling away. Like I said, that was usually, not all of the times. It even happened more and more as I got older, that unknown feeling of dread or doom would appear suddenly.
The Adult Rated Mental Issues.
Warning: The Overly Sensitive Readers Should Turn Back Now.
As a man, we have needs. This doesn't just mean a release by self cleaning the old pipes. That may work sometimes, however that self release is missing vital factors. Doing it yourself, is only making the problem worse in some cases. Let me try to explain, but without being too graphic. When someone watches Porn and releases the built up on pressure themselves, they are missing the transfer of Hormones, and Pheromones they would have gotten with a partner physically being there. This perpetuates the madness the more it happens. When a man releases, without the presence of his partners natural pheromonal and hormonal transfer, it literally drives them slowly mad. This is why people who perpetually watch pornography, will become withdrawn from society, and eventually over enough time, also from friends and family. We need physical contact, and the older we get, the more we actually begin to need it to stay normal.
The same thing goes for women, they also need true physical contact. In fact, they actually need it more than men. This is why so many widows will lose their minds after their husbands pass. This article however is about men, so we won't get too far into the ladies issues. Just know there is a direct correlation between “do it yourself” releases and going mad.
I have been dealing with everything listed above for decades, and some of them still happen regularly. I have found ways to lessen some, and temporarily halt others, but the battle never ends.
Just know that if you ask a man if he is okay, and get the response “I'm fine,” it really means..
I'm alone in a room full of people.
I feel like I'm going to explode.
My life is in total chaos.
It's not that he doesn't want to talk about it, the problem is simply that he can't really explain it.
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